I was with my son and we saw one of my colleagues at work, who’s probably five years behind to a senior citizen.
I introduced my son to him. After he left, my son asked me, “Is he older than you mom?”
I was shocked, embarrased and yes, insulted by my son’s “bad judgement.” How could he not see that my co worker is far, far older than me!?
I answered him harshly, “You know stupid questions deserve stupid answers right?”
And, I lectured him about being sensitive, and thinking before asking or saying anything, blah blah blah..
He kept silent and I just saw him looked to the ground. And then I thought, “A tap on the shoulder for a job well done. Another point for good parenting discipline!”
And, then God spoked to me. “Mind your judgement, my daughter.”
I looked at my son and then it hit me. My son, though thirteen years old looked more like ten or eleven years old.
He told me once before that whenever people would ask him, ” Anong grade ka na?” Instead of saying, “Grade six”, he’d just say, “Grade four.” Because nobody would believe him if he tells them he’s grade 6.
And, that’s where he’s coming from. He has met a lot of people who looks older than him but were actually younger.
That’s the reason why he asked me if the guy that we met was older than me. Not because he was asking a stupid question, but because of his experiences.
My son did not have a bad judgement, I did. My son was not insentitive, I was.
Yes, I deserve a tap, but not on the shoulder, the face perhaps. 🙂 😛
I felt bad for what I did to my son and I have asked for forgiveness. I should be more careful next time.
And, I thank God for correcting me and reminding me of His ways.
“Joyful are those you discipline, Lord , those you teach with your instructions.”
Psalms 94:12 NLT